I miss being a kid.
Remember when your birthday was the most important day? And all your friends would come and celebrate with you? And you'd get tons of presents?
Well, flash forward 30 years and you find that your birthday isn't nearly as important as it once was.
Friends get married, have kids, and barely have time to return your emails or phone calls, let alone attend your birthday party.
It's amazing how many friends forget about you once they get married or into a relationship. They forget that birthdays still matter.
Maybe this post is more about friendship that it is about birthdays.
But the two go together.
After all, you can't have a birthday without friends, right?
I hate to admit this but my mom was right.
Friends come and go.
Most of your friends will not be in your life 5 years from now, much less 10-15 years from now.
If you're the exception to the rule, you're lucky.
I've always been a loyal friend.
I go above and beyond for people.
Yet I don't often or always get the same in return for what I put out.
Are my expectations too high?
People keep telling me they are but I really don't think so.
If I spent 7 hours in a bar for your birthday a couple years ago, silly me, maybe I expect you'll make a big deal out of my birthday, eh? But no...
Or if you choose to have your birthday party at an expensive restaurant, maybe you can return the favor and buy me dinner when it's my birthday.
If I bought you yummy Mexican for your birthday, maybe you could invite me out to yummy Mexican for mine.
I'm not trying to keep score here.
Really I'm not.
But I'm also not made of money so if I go and do these things for friends - the least I would expect is the same in return.
Maybe it's an Asian thing but that's how I was raised.
Tit for tat.
And if that makes my expectations "too high" well then I have a feeling you're the selfish, bad friend, not me.
At least it makes you appreciate the people still in your life.
Like the new friend you made that listens and supports you for an hour on the phone when you're having a bad day.
She almost makes up for all the shitty friends you don't care about anymore.